Is your fear of pain to train greater than the pain of gain?
I have talked with many individuals, into the thousands, over my lifetime and especially recently and often the issue that I have come across regarding starting a business or even contemplating any career change with most is one of fear. This includes my own life and bad habits I learned from my father. Whether or not one’s fear is self-inflicted or self-imposed through one’s own self talk, i.e. listening and believing in the cynical talk from others, the issue of fear hinders, even shackles, our personal growth
To train requires to strain
Take a good look at the photo and take a second to digest this image — Sam Bryant is a 70 year old body builder!
A 70 year old, mind you!
Bryant’s Facebook page shows what he’s up to, as well as a recent post showing body builders all over the age of 60!
But he didn’t start getting into weight lifting until he was 44 years old when he was going through a divorce and needed an outlet for his stress.
You hear the constant beat from the media, the up and coming “30 under 30” people that are going to change the world, as if old is “worn and torn,” never to be of use any longer.
Words can change how you feel about life, but actions can change your whole life.
Pain, no matter the source, is in contrast to happiness or joy. Without pain, we’d never know what happiness or joy would be in our life. But our pain can be a great motivator, whether that pain is financial, emotional, mental, or even spiritual.
Growing up, my mother used a ruler to spank me, “If you don’t get moving on the count of three, I’m going to use the ruler on you. 1……2……” and usually by two I was moving, because I didn’t want to feel the pain of being spanked. The pain to remain, getting spanked, can be greater than the pain to strain, to get moving.
There is the pain of discipline from punishment, i.e. from “The Ruler” from my mother or the failure to change, then there is the pain of discipline from preparation, i.e. from training or taking action to improve. To strain with weightlifting or exercise is to tear down old muscle and build new, better, muscles.
The pain to strain means there will be gain.
To strain envision a gain
The pain we encounter is in any situation, but in order to move past where we currently are, we need to envision a new gain. A new goal or path to take, however small or incremental. A new goal or vision for what we’re currently living in. Starting a business is a new chapter in your life, even pivoting your business path is change that is hopefully for the better. But the pain to remain in most cases is more painful that the change of the gain.
I had a friend who was going through a very difficult time in her life. We talked about her situation. After a time talking, I told her, “Whatever you’re going through in life, do NOT go around, over, or under your problems, go THROUGH your problems and your pain to the other side. Because when you look back after going through your situation, you’ll much better off, stronger than ever before.
The goal of pain is to grow the gain
Weight training is the same as life. It takes effort to take action. Sometimes it might require taking a 10X level of action, 10 times your current performance to move past your pain. Not an incremental, but an innovative improvement.
Never avoid your problems with DENIAL by avoiding them or DWELLING in them and failing to get past them, but DEAL with them in a healthy, constructive way. Both dwelling and denying your situation is avoiding taking responsible and “taking ownership” for your decisions and actions.
Live in such as way that if someone spoke badly of you —- no one would believe it.
And once the pain of gain is realized, grow even more.
All growth depends upon activity. There is no development physically or intellectually without effort, and effort means work. Calvin Coolidge
It means having a growth mindset. Let the pain to train become the fuel for gain.